If there’s one question I often get on Instagram, it’s this: “May I ask what books you read to guide you with your parenting?”
I am not ashamed to admit that I am the type of mom who relies on lots and lots of books to help me guide my son. If I’ll be honest here, I admit I don’t believe in “mother’s instinct” 100%. If that were true, we’d all be doing the same thing and treating our children the same way. Because that’s how it would happen in the wild. Creatures of nature survive because of their instincts.
In birds for example, did you know that if males and females had different colors, it would usually be the males that are colorful and the females in drab colors? Why? Well, one of the biggest reasons is because as mothers, they need to protect their hatchlings and juveniles, and one way to do so is to stay camouflaged. This is the same way for all the mothers of the same species of birds. In humans, our free will allows us to make different endings.
So yes, I don’t completely believe in a mother’s instinct. And upon realizing how much my son would be is a product of what we do and expose him to, I am all the more not ashamed to say that I do turn in to experts for help and advice.
I did a list of WHAT I READ WHEN I WAS PREGNANT, and unfortunately, I don’t have much time in my hands now to explain each and every book thoroughly. So, just check them out and hope you find something that interests you. I put them in categories to make it easier for everybody.
IF YOU ARE STILL PREGNANT OR HAVE AN INFANT/ YOUNG TODDLER:
- Montessori From The Start by Paula Polk Lillard
- Brain Rules For Baby by John Medina
- Your Self-Confident Baby by Magda Gerber
- Elevating Self-Care: A Guide To Respectful Parenting by Janet Lansbury
- Montessori Baby Guide by Stacy Sanders
- Understanding The Human Being by Dr. Montanaro
- Do Fathers Matter? What Science Is Telling Us About The Parent We’ve Overlooked by Paul Raeburn
- The Wonder Weeks by Frans Plooij and Hetty Van De Rijt
- A Montessori Mother by Dorothy Fisher
IF YOU HAVE A TODDLER:
- The Joyful Child by Susan Stephenson
- The Newbie’s Guide To Positive Parenting by Rebecca Eanes
- Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide by Rebecca Eanes
- Positive Parenting in Action by Laura Ling and Rebecca Eans
- The Montessori At Home Guide by A M Sterling
- Teach Me To Do It Myself: 101 Montessori-Inspired Activities for Children Ages 2-6 by Maja Pitamic
- Basic Montessori: Learning Activities for Under Fives by David Gettman
- How To Talk So Your Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
- Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne
IF YOU HAVE OLDER CHILDREN (older toddlers and up):
- Play The Forest School Way by Peter Houghton and Jane Worroll
IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR SUPER EASY, FUN READS:
- Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman
- How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm by Mei Ling Hopgood
IF YOU HAVE TIME FOR PHILOSOPHICAL BOOKS:
Most of the books I mentioned are more on the practical side (and little explanations here and there), but if you have time to really go deeper and have a better understanding of the WHYs (of the Montessori principles especially), I highly suggest reading Maria Montessori’s books herself.
- The Absorbent Mind
- The Discovery of the Child
- The Secret of Childhood
- Dr. Montessori’s Own Handbook
These are the most popular, but she has more books. You can also go to Project Gutenberg and The Internet Archive for some free e-books. Just type Montessori and see which one/s you can make time for. For summaries, I also bought THIS and THIS. For more Montessori goodness, check THIS out.
I also purchased some Montessori-specific books made by parents who practice Montessori. Maybe I’ll include them next time.
So that’s it for now, haha. I don’t really have a lot of hard copies anymore. Although it would be best that Pablo sees me reading an actual book, the truth is, since he was born, the only time I can really read long enough is when he’s asleep — but he’s latched on me, so I end up turning off my wifi, and opening my Kindle or iBooks to read my list. So yes, most of my books are now e-books. Easier purchase, too. I just go to Amazon and choose Kindle, or download from the sites I’ve mentioned, download as epub, and I have my copy! In the middle of the night. Haha!
PS: You know what? Do check those second-hand bookstores in malls (or other kinds of establishments), too. Sometimes, there are copies of Montessori / parenting books at bargain prices! If you want a new copy, you can always request Fully Booked to find a copy for you, and they’ll get back to you with a price and estimated time of arrival.